Relationship Coaching


“Healing begins when you do something.  God’s help is near and always available, but it’s given to those who seek it.  Healing starts when you take a step.  God honors radical, risk-taking faith.“ Max Lucado

In a time when marriages face a 50% and higher divorce rate it is easy to see that something is missing in our attempt to keep relationships vibrant and growing. Our goal is to provide a supportive and constructive environment where couples can know they are heard and understood as well as find wholeness as a person in order to find intimacy within their relationship.

Our coaching center is here to join your team.  Whether you’re looking for direction, specific counsel, assistance in breaking through a stuck place in your relationship or you’re ready to give up, we are here to help.  Our coaching philosophy is to help you work to identify, work through and eliminate root causes to the things that keep you from living out the marriage God intended for you.

 Our Christian coaching will walk with you and your spouse into often-plagued areas of your relationship in a 50 minute session.  We will give you vital tools and new ways of thinking about your relationship that are designed to keep your relationship healthy and restore the areas in your relationship that have brought you to emotional gridlock.  

The Essentials


Confidentiality is one of the cornerstones of a sound coaching practice. We take this aspect of our relationship with you very seriously and give you our commitment to keep our sessions strictly confidential.

Root Cause Focus

Our focus with each couple or individual is to assist them in identifying root causes to the issues that keeps them from having the marriage God intended for them. Once identified, our heart is to assist in confronting and eliminating those root causes & seeing you set FREE.

Where our center is

Our coaching center is located at 1496 Tower Square, Ventura CA.


Pre-Marital Coaching

Whether you are just thinking about getting engaged or your wedding is next week, the best time to work on your marriage is before it begins. Building a solid foundation for your marriage to stand on is essential to a successful marriage. Too often “getting married” feels like a final destination, that place where your relationship has “arrived”.

But marriage isn’t the end… it’s the beginning of a new, and exciting chapter of your life. And we want to help you figure out how to navigate the journey together. There is no shortcut to a great marriage, GREATNESS requires WORK everyday. It’s a 100%/100% proposition.

Our premarital coaching gameplan includes a relationship inventory (Prepare/Enrich), communication and conflict resolution skills, managing money God’s way, sex & intimacy, understanding boundaries that safeguard your relationship and more…

Relationship Assessment

Our certified Prepare/Enrich facilitators can administer a customized couple assessment completed online that identifies a couple’s strength and growth areas. It is one of the most widely used programs for premarital counseling and premarital education. It is also used for marriage counseling, marriage enrichment, and dating couples considering engagement. Based on a couple’s assessment results, a trained facilitator provides 6-8 feedback sessions in which the facilitator helps the couple discuss and understand their results as they are taught proven relationship skills.

Financial Coaching

Statistics tell us that 65-70% of couples argue about money. They also tell us that approx. 1/2 of all divorce cases have a strong financial component as a cause. Being on the same page with your spouse in this area can have huge benefits to your marriage. That’s why our counseling center puts a priority on providing services to help guide couples in this area. No matter where you are in your relationship with money, we have a resource that can help you grow into the money-managers that God wants you to be. Designed to encourage you in your next stewardship steps, we offer financial classes, seminars, and individual coaching. We address topics like budgeting, saving, debt, investing, giving, estate planning, relating about money, and other financial topics. Our goal is that husbands and wives would come together to manage their finances God’s way.

Crisis Intervention

Are you open to a miracle? 

If you’re willing put in the work and give your marriage one last chance, we can help. God can work with the smallest of faith and breathe HOPE into a hopeless situation. Traumas such as Infidelity, conflicts & arguing, communication problems, past hurts & distrust can be overcome by the power of Jesus Christ and your willingness to engage in the counseling process.  We have partnered with an organization voted one of the top 10 Christian conferences, retreats & Intensives in 2017, Fan The Flame Marriage Intensives to help you.

We’re glad you’re here 

Your being here means that you believe there is still hope for your marriage. That’s all we ask … that you can still see a flicker of life … and have a willingness to fan that flame back into a meaningful marriage. You owe it to yourself, your spouse and your children to make that effort.

Acknowledging your need for an intervention … or a miracle … is the first step to transforming your relationship. You might believe you’re too far apart … too hurt and damaged … or too far gone to save your marriage. We believe that our time together can help you begin to stop the craziness so you can begin putting your relationship with God and each other back together again.

May we encourage you … before you choose to extinguish the flame of your marriage forever, to make at least one more try?

What is a “Fan the Flame Intensive? 

Our marriage intensives are more than a couple’s weekend retreat. They are intimate, personalized coaching sessions designed to help you identify and address your specific needs. Intensives are more powerful than one hour counseling sessions because they keep you both focused on your issues for an extended period of time. You will receive over 25 hours of personalized counseling, coaching and marriage building exercises that will fan the flame of your marriage back to life.

Where are these intensives held?

 We want you to get away from the distractions and daily routines that complicate your life so you can focus on yourselves and your marriage. You will be our guests in sunny Southern California… enjoying your own private room and bath with all your linens and towels provided… and 3 great meals a day. Your job… is to concentrate on yourselves and your marriage… our mission is to focus on you.

You will receive approximately 25 hours of personalized coaching, counseling and attention in a small group setting over your 3 days in our very accommodating and all inclusive marriage counseling retreat experience.

Most people have apprehensions about marriage counseling in a group format … yet we’ve found that couples can’t stop talking about how helpful it was for them. Also, independent research shows that men show higher levels of satisfaction in a group format than individual settings.

Program Details

  • You will receive approximately 25 hours of attention from 1 coaching couple per group
  • Intensive Notebooks
  • 2 nights of lodging
  • All your meals included
  • 15 week follow up program
  • Monthly “live” video chat follow-ups
  • Limit of 3 married couples per intensive

Program Schedule

Friday Night

  • Arrive for first night … check in time is after 4 pm.
  • Dinner
  • Get acquainted time with your coaches and other two couples
  • Retire for evening


  • Breakfast
  • Morning sessions with break
  • Lunch
  • Afternoon sessions with breaks and projects
  • Dinner
  • Evening session with couple’s project
  • Retire for evening


  • Breakfast
  • Morning session with break
  • Lunch
  • Afternoon sessions with breaks and projects
  • Dinner
  • Travel Home

Price & Registration

To discuss cost and payment information and to get you registered, your next step is to call toll free 833-482-4968 or email intensives@fantheflamedates.comFinancial “needs based” scholarships are available.  CALL TODAY

Upcoming Marriage Intensives are:

  • May 18-20, 2018 @ Southern California (3 spots open) **NEW**
  • July 13-15, 2018 @ Southern California (3 spots open) **NEW**